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Writer's pictureJeff Sealy

Mentoring: Exploring both sides of the relationship

Updated: Jul 23, 2023


Mentoring is essential to a person's success in the present and the future for academic, professional, or personal goals. The activity improves socialization skills, professional development, and individual success. However, both the mentor and mentee have different roles in the progress of the mentorship. The driving force of the relationship should be the flexibility for both parties to connect. Flexibility about interests, preferences, and, most importantly, the goals of the connection. Initially, as a mentee, a person should identify what they would like to get out of the relationship. Whether the motivation behind the connection is acquiring knowledge, building through activities, and sharing developmental ideas, the person-centered or specific approach can be beneficial. The value of exchanging information and utilization of resources fosters and then maintains the mentoring plan.

As the mentor, a person should initially evaluate developmental needs, develop a rapport then discover a way to provide support and guidance. The mentor acts in an advisory role by providing feedback when necessary and teaching the rules for success. The mentor also acts as a coach by providing a specific game plan to increase achievement through opportunity. Ultimately, the mentor offers positivity by promoting awareness and growth.

When the mentor and mentee begin the relationship, the focus shifts to similar interests and career experiences, and the mentee ponders the relationship's value and whether the mentor holds any value depending on their personal goals. While maintaining ethical standards, confidentiality, and professionalism, both parties should consistently discuss possible challenges, accommodation issues, and appropriate interactions. Even though relationship-building can be intricate, it is imperative to build trust and honesty.

Expanding resources and strategies can be considered with cautious optimism in the mentor/mentee relationship. There is always some risk associated with every decision; however, how the risk is mitigated impacts the result. A mentor must be positive while carefully assessing the idea to ensure the mentee makes the right choice. Conversely, the mentee must be open-minded and willing to accept constructive criticism for education. Education affords teachable moments and reduces the risk of future mistakes.

Maintaining consistent contact and assistance for the mentor preserves a successful mentoring partnership. Communication and effective listening are essential while adhering to a consistent schedule. Breakdowns in communication, inconsistent patterns, and lack of commitment are the fastest ways to ruin a mentoring relationship. Both parties must set expectations and establish the parameters of the relationship. Professional, personal, and academic situations can be stressful; however, the mentoring relationship will succeed with a reliable structure.



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